The Emotional Theater of Away Messages

Christopher Rommel
Jul 7
2 min read

AIM Away Messages were the subtweets before Twitter. You weren’t just stepping away—you were performing a feeling:

"Don't talk to me. Don't look at me. IM me."

From cryptic emo lyrics to caps-locked cries for attention, Away Messages were tiny windows into our hearts. And we watched each other closely. If someone posted "some wounds never heal," you messaged immediately. That emotional reflex became foundational to millennial communication.

Psych Insight: Online disinhibition allows for deeper, faster intimacy, especially for adolescents. AIM

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MySpace: Love, Chaos, and Top 8 Dramas

Remember your Top 8? The sacred list that could end a friendship?

MySpace was emotional exhibitionism turned UI. You learned HTML just to make your profile you. That song autoplaying? A coded message. That Top 1 shift? A declaration of war. MySpace made intimacy public, visible, and gamified.

According to Internet Archive records and Pew data, over 80% of teens in the mid-2000s used MySpace to share personal updates, emotional thoughts, and music-driven identity markers.

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Boomer Friendships: Structured and Stoic

Now compare that to your dad and his golf buddies.

Boomer friendships were often scheduled, compartmentalized, and emotionally restrained. They were loyal and dependable, but rarely expressive. “I’m proud of you” came once a decade. “Need to vent” wasn’t a phrase.

Boomers built friendships on presence; Millennials built them on emotional presence.

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How We Carry That Intimacy Today

Today, Ricky and I still reference those AIM-era habits. If he posts a sad lyric in the group chat, I know to check in. If I text “ily🥺🚩” he knows I’m spiraling.

Millennial closeness didn’t fade—it evolved. We turned AIM into group texts, MySpace into curated Instagram stories, LimeWire into Spotify shares. Our friendships are still active, emotionally charged, and always on. We don’t ghost. We meme through the pain.

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